The following are two examples of where I have struggled to tell the truth.
I owned a cleaning business and we had several business accounts where our employees cleaned while the business was open. One day I was approached by the owner of one of these businesses and he said, "You have to do something about your cleaning people's hygiene. You have one gentleman that needs to take a bath and tell him his mustache does not grow out of his nose." Of course I told him I would take care of it.
I could have easily just went to the employee and told him, "If you do not bathe and clip your nose hairs, you are fired," (which would be typical in many companies.) So how do I tell him? How do I motivate him to bathe and clip, keep him from leaving our company and keep our customer happy?
I took him to lunch at a restaurant that was located close to a meat packing plant. If you have never been around a meat packing plant, they have a distinct odor. He commented on the smell which gave me the opening I was hoping for. I said, "Is it not weird how some people can tolerate and live by this smell, while others would never come close to it?" He agreed emphatically as his nose curled. I then moved to the truth, "We have a client that we may loose due to something very similar. It deals with your hygiene, specifically your body odor and nose hair. Some of the people find it offensive." He commented, "If I smell anything like this meat packing plant, I would complain to." Needless to say, we finished the conversation, solved the problem, and his hygiene was never a problem again.
This next example is never fun and I always hated it - telling someone they are terminated. You have gone through the performance problem process. It includes conversations, meetings, and written documentation of the issues that have led you to decide that someone must be terminated. Many people feel that once you have decided, you should act on it immediately - tell the truth. I have not always done this. I have been accused of being chicken, sneaky, unsympathetic, and other words that are not fit for this blog.
The decision has been made to terminate someone, but there are issues to consider:
- By waiting they could get the company paid health insurance for another month
- They have a child that is graduating from high school - do it before or after?
- They are going to the doctor for some health issue - do you wait to hear about the results?
- A major project for the company will be completed if we wait
- Someone else may quit if we do not take immediate action
- If we wait a few weeks, they can receive their ESOP allocation
- They are going on a two week vacation - do you tell them before or after?
- They are going through a divorce
- Their father just died - do you wait until after the funeral?
- You know that they are thinking about buying a car or home
What would you do in these scenarios?
Tell the truth - it is the right thing to do. When and how? These are the questions that good leaders spend a lot of time thinking about and getting input from others.
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